BDSM 101

After scouring the net and generally not being satisfied with any checklists out there I took matters in my own hands to make one that would be an obvious improvement. Using Excel as the main platform it may come off a bit nerdy, however the format is much easier to open and use these days.

On my research to find a decent preexisting checklist it seemed something was always missing, they weren't always easy to share, and the data on a completed checklist wasn't always easy to review. Ranging from pdfs, to doc files, to websites, they all were pretty much a mess and then it came to me that trying to use an Excel file was a no brainer. For a while it was considered mostly just accounting type software, but now thanks to Google Docs and other online systems the Excel file format is much more accessible. 

As for the main layout I wanted to make sure someone could declare interest, existing experience, and then a section for notes to clarify any particulars. The notes section can be really handy to give a quick declaration of why one gave the interest level for said item or clarify special circumstances. It may look busy at first, but the color coding really helps making the checklist scan-able for key information. This way one can quickly see the Loves and Hates then go back for a second pass for finer detail.

I wanted to make sure to have the core list overall complete, but this may come off as a bit much to beginners. My main advice would be to hang in there and not feel like everything has to be filled out. Just skip around to the sections that interest you to share about with others. I went ahead and left out extreme stuff such as bestiality since typically illegal, however thanks to the Excel format it is easy for anyone to add something they feel is missing. Another big plus is once one is filled out, it is easy to adjust and make new variants. This is a common want with varying activity interest depending on play partners. An example would be having a core set of likes, but interested in doing shibari with one person yet would rather look into spanking with a different person.

Format wise I tried to make an older 2003 format one so more versions could open and use it. The fancy colors get a bit busted when exporting the google docs file and then opening back up in google docs so the in app link is preferred while the xlsx file is just for backup.

Although I tried to make this first public release a solid starting point, I look forward to hearing any input. Obviously I could use some help with creating the helper definitions where although busy work for the creator, they should be helpful quick reference to beginners. 

Checklist Links:
Google Docs - <Save a copy to edit>
Excel 2003 / File Drop - http://discerningspecialist.com/checklist/

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