One of the most special gifts I’ve ever received from anyone is my slave collar from Sir. It’s a powerful symbol of his ownership and control over me, and it gives me a sexy tactile reminder of my place in our dynamic. My collar is low profile enough to be worn with any outfit as not to alert the vanillas, but is a clear declaration to others in the community that I’m owned and loved.

The collar Sir gave me is the Talena From Axsmar. The Talena collar is a classic slave collar with a twist. It’s bent slightly so that it sits nicely on the collar bones, giving it a sexy fitted look and making it more comfortable than the collars that are just circles. The collar has a main segment and a shorter removable segment, making it easy to snap off and on.

As with every decision Sir makes involving his sluts, I could tell he did a significant amount of research before choosing this particular collar for me. At the time I was a competitive powerlifter (Braggadocious fact: I benched 315 lbs at a meet once), so I was in the gym training a lot and my safety was a concern for him. The break away design was a key factor in his choice because he worried I might get it caught on something and have a bad problem that would result in death and dead sluts are no fun.

The design allows me to take it off faster than other slave collars which require a tool, and careful removal to make sure you don’t lose the screw. This was helpful for the times I got under the squat bar and noticed that I still had the collar on. It was easy to take it off and not screw up my lift or focus. The fact that my collar is non-locking doesn’t take away from the feeling for me but I know other subs may like it better if it’s locked so there’s also a locking version that has a screw to secure it once on.

I have to admit that snapping on and off can get tricky If I’m moving fast and I have pinched my fingers before and that really sucks. The good news is that it hurts pretty bad so you’ll only do it a couple times, and in general this is easy to avoid by just paying attention to what you're doing, and using a mirror if you are putting it on by yourself. It’s easy to get the hang of it, and in my opinion the slight risk of pinching is a small price to pay for the overall comfort and look of the collar.

You can choose between stainless steel, silver, or titanium. There are also a variety of finish options, and thicknesses to choose from to get the exact look you’re going for. Mine is the 8mm thick stainless steel collar, so it has just enough weight to it that I can feel it when I put it on, but it’s easy to ignore and go about my regular business throughout the day. It’s never uncomfortable because the shape fits my neck perfectly, and the bend in the collar helps to distribute the weight of the collar (5.7 oz) and eliminates any one spot on the collar bone or neck that's getting all the pressure.

These collars can be worn 24/7. I’ve worn mine for weeks at a time and never had a problem at all. Nothing ever gets sore and I can even sleep in it, shower in it, and can leave it on for play as it sits on my neck low enough that a play collar can just be added above it.

I don't normally bring my fetishes to the airport, but I do always bring my collar with me when I travel because it gives me a sense of normalcy when I’m out of my home environment for too long, and also because I like to show off my collar in general. Since its not held together with a screw, I just quickly snap it off and put it in my purse when I go through security and they never ask me anything (they’re probably more focused on the dildos, gags and vibrators I travel with, hehe). On rare occasions I have forgotten to take it off, and even that was never a problem. They just want to touch it and make sure it's not like full of bombs or cocaine or something, lol.

As far as craftsmanship goes, it's essentially indestructible. There's no risk of accidentally bending it or ruining the connection points where it snaps on and off. I’ve probably taken it off and put it on thousands of times and there's still just as much tension as there was the first day. Since a screw is not required to keep it together, there’s no additional tools needed, and you don’t have to worry about anything coming loose which is nice.

Another thing I love about this collar is that there's no risk of hair getting caught in it after the initial snapping on. Even when I wear my tag or the O-ring then it's never been a problem. I have long hair and I really hate it when my hair gets tangled in regular vanilla necklaces, so this is a bonus in my book.

Speaking of tags, Sir got me a name tag for my collar as well. (https://wyredslave.com/product/erica-tag/) He did a great job planning out the design and making it super personalized with a cute hello kitty logo and a “Property of Mr. ___” engraved on the back. The actual tag itself looks beautiful and is a great addition to the collar and the sense of being owned in general. I see that my particular tag is a slightly different shape than the updated version they offer now. I have to admit that the bottom edges are a little “scratchy” and after a while and I kinda find myself wanting to take that part off. It doesn't hurt or anything. It’s just a mild annoyance that happens once in awhile. If i just pull that tag part out and wear it over my shirt then its totally fine.

I also have the O-ring attachment from wyred slave (https://wyredslave.com/product/detachable-do-ring-mount/) which is perfect to wear when I want to have a more fetishy look or for a light leash to be attached, but I dont wear it a lot because the whole point of the collar is to be discreet, and the O-ring kind of gives it away. There’s no discomfort with this attachment even with it sliding around on the collar, and I can easily forget that it’s even on there, so if you like the look it’s definitely a fun addition.

Asxmar also offers an O-ring specifically for the Talena https://www.axsmar.eu/Stainless-Steel/Talena/Talena-slide-on-ring::117.html

Just to be clear, an O-ring for this collar is more of a decoration vs. and actual connection point for play, and the Telena collar this is not good play collar (even if locked) because it’s thin and hard. It could cause some damage to the neck if pulled on, but it’s perfect as a symbol of ownership.

If given a choice to wear the O-ring or a name tag I almost always choose the name tag because it’s more meaningful to me, so if you were only going to choose one accessory I would pick the name tag.

Overall I would definitely recommend the Talena collar to anyone thinking of collaring that special someone. It’s a great way to sneak a little BDSM into your regular life without too much attention from vanilla people, and it’s super comfortable for 24/7 wear. The ease of taking it off and putting it on without tools is a major plus, and more than anything it’s a powerful symbol of the commitment you’re making to each other in your relationship as Dominant and submissive.

I’ve had mine for several years now and while I don’t always wear it 24/7, when I do it gives me a sense of pride in my submission to Sir and that unmistakable feeling of protection that subs so greatly desire. I never get tired of wearing it, and I will cherish it always.

https://www.axsmar.eu/Stainless-Steel/Talena:::1_9.html