We’ve been playing with shock collars for a few years now, and it’s become one of my favorite pieces of gear. We feel that shock collars are an underutilized toy in BDSM, and I’m pretty sure that’s because they have a bad PR campaign.

There have been some attempts out there to have some symbols for BDSM roles, however I wanted to give my attempt to expand the idea for anyone to use.

Hear me out on this one folks, I have this pretty crazy concept that the solution to racism is not more racism and prejudice.

The title of this guide may already have you confused, so I’ll let you in on the half joke that I call it the beginner “advanced” guide since it is more comprehensive than most by being a collection of core concepts that commonly are separated into totally different articles. Especially these days, beginner guides tend to get dumbed down to 10 count tip lists of stolen advice and those truly interested in learning need and deserve better.

There are plenty of awful sex toys out there and usually they are fairly easy to spot, however unfortunately due to many less than honorable reviewers there can be a lot of confusion as well. I wanted to show off some examples to help combat the issue.

A rare gem for those who want to take their prison role play to the next level and much more!

Kitty discusses the reluctance female submissives have about buying their own set of BDSM gear

Every person is different, however despite men being known as logical creatures, they seem bad about knowing the basics of communicating with women. We don’t have all the magic answers, but since we see so many obvious mistakes everyday we thought it would be a good idea to at least give some tips to point men in the right direction. Although for the most part meant in a kinky online community context, most of these tips easily apply to the vanilla world as well.

Along the journey of learning more about female chastity play one of the factors that became very apparent is just how rare it is. To investigate ideas on why this may be and what grabs those actually into it, I thought a good idea to inquire with some actual female chastity girls.

After scouring the net and generally not being satisfied with any checklists out there I took matters in my own hands to make one that would be an obvious improvement. Using Excel as the main platform it may come off a bit nerdy, however the format is much easier to open and use these days.

We communicate every day. With our baristas, the bus driver, our partner, our friend-- we communicate what we need and want, even if it’s just requesting a nonfat latte. It’s important. Without communication, it would be like trying to operate in a strange country where you didn’t speak any of the language.